“Fee-only” sounds clean, but incentives can still bend advice. Assets-under-management fees reward gathering and keeping your money—even when paying down debt or buying a house might be smarter. Custodians, model portfolios, and referral platforms can create subtle pressures you never see. The antidote is clear questions that force plain-English answers in dollars, not jargon in percentages. Ask these 10 and you’ll spot misalignment before it costs you.
1. “Show me every dollar I’ll pay—advisor fee, platform/wrap fees, fund expenses, trading, custodial.”
Percentages hide real costs; dollars clarify them. Get a sample invoice for a portfolio like yours at your expected balance. Ask for current expense ratios of the exact funds/ETFs they’d use. If they won’t total the all-in cost on one page, that’s your first red flag.
2. “Are you a fiduciary 100% of the time—and will you sign a fiduciary oath?”
Some firms switch hats between fiduciary (RIA) and suitability (broker). You want an “always fiduciary” answer in writing. If they’re dually registered, pin down when the standard changes. No signature, no engagement.
3. “Do you receive any indirect benefits—custodian payments, ‘soft dollars,’ shelf-space, conferences, or lead-gen referrals I subsidize?”
Fee-only advisors can still benefit from non-cash perks. Ask whether the custodian or fund companies provide research credits, marketing money, or event travel. Clarify if your assets help the firm hit pricing tiers that reduce their costs. Hidden perks = hidden influence.
4. “How do you get paid if I pay down debt, hold lots of cash, buy real estate, or self-manage part of my assets?”
A pure AUM model can punish good non-portfolio choices. Look for flexibility: flat fees, hourly planning, or project pricing that aligns with your life, not just investable assets. If every path leads back to “transfer more here,” that’s the model talking. Ask for a written fee schedule that explicitly prices non-AUM work—tax planning, debt payoff guidance, and real-estate analysis—so your best move doesn’t shrink their paycheck.
5. “Who is your custodian, and what controls separate you from my money?”
Your advisor shouldn’t hold your assets. Confirm an independent custodian, view-only credentials for you, and dual-authorization for withdrawals. Ask how wires, check requests, and beneficiary changes are verified. Process is your protection.
6. “Do you recommend any proprietary or related-party products, and what are my identical, cheaper alternatives?”
Even fee-only firms launch funds, models, or private deals. If they use them, demand a side-by-side with lower-cost equivalents and a written rationale. Proprietary solutions aren’t automatically bad—but they require extra sunlight. Ask for a written conflict disclosure detailing any ownership, revenue sharing, or compensation tied to those products—and quantify the all-in cost difference in both basis points and dollars.
7. “What’s your rebalancing and trading policy—frequency, tax controls, and when do you realize gains?”
Over-trading can create taxes you don’t see until April. Ask how they harvest losses, control short-term gains, and manage wash-sale risks. You want a rules-based process with human oversight, not churn dressed up as “active management.”
8. “Will you provide your latest Form ADV Part 2A and Form CRS, and walk me through the conflicts section?”
These filings disclose compensation, affiliations, and conflicts in black and white. Have them screen-share and explain the exact paragraphs that apply to you. If the story in the ADV doesn’t match what you’re hearing, believe the filing. Confirm the last-updated date and ask for the official SEC/IARD link so you can verify independently. Ask them to call out any disciplinary history, affiliated businesses, soft-dollar/marketing arrangements, or referral fees—and describe exactly how those conflicts are mitigated for your account.
9. “How do you prevent model drift—who builds the models, who approves changes, and how are new funds vetted?”
Some firms outsource portfolios to third-party strategists; others use an internal committee. Either way, ask for the checklist: cost, tracking error, liquidity, and tax impact. “Because we like it” isn’t a due-diligence standard. Ask for a written change log or investment committee minutes showing dates, sign-offs, and the cost/tax/fit analysis behind each model update.
10. “What do you refuse to do—and why?”
Great advisors have hard lines: no performance fees, no commissions, no custody, no undisclosed referrals. Clear “no’s” protect you from gray areas later. Vague answers today become expensive misunderstandings tomorrow.
Turn the Spotlight on Incentives
Good planning survives tough questions; conflicted advice wilts under them. When an advisor totals every fee in dollars, signs a fiduciary oath, and welcomes ADV scrutiny, you’re on safer ground. When they’re paid fairly even if you deleverage, hold cash, or buy a home, your life—not their AUM—drives decisions. Ask boldly now so you’re not apologizing to your future self later.
Which question revealed the most in your advisor interviews—fees in dollars, fiduciary oath, or custodian controls? Drop your experience or draft answers below.
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